6 Of The Best Sex Habits of Super Happy Couples

Sex is to a happy relationship what butter is to a summer lobster feast: totally and completely necessary. “It’s something you do with your partner that most people don’t do with anyone else, so it sets the relationship apart and makes it special,” says yet another clinical psychologist, this time Ursula Ofman shares the six bedroom routines that separate the so-in-love couples from the rest.

They Believe in Their Sexiness

Sex Habits of Super Happy CouplesOne of the most important sexual habits happy couples have is assuming their partner is turned on by them,” says Ofman. If it seems like a basic step, that’s because it kind of is! “It reinforces the feeling of mutual sexual interest,” says Ofman. This is key because in Ofman’s clinical experience, women sometimes discount their partners’ sexual interest as thinking that’s just what men are like rather than realizing their guys are specifically turned on by them. That distinction can make a world of difference.

They Don’t Underestimate the Little Things

Is surprising your partner naked and covered in sushi a la Samantha Jones a good way to get things going? Sure, but happy couples know they don’t need to make a big production to keep things hot. “A simple phone call at lunch to say, ‘I miss you’ can make your lover’s whole day, a sexy text message can prime you both for an evening of intimacy, and a meaningful touch on the arm or even hand-holding while walking the dog can really restore your connection,” says Madeleine Castellanos, M.D., author of Wanting to Want: What Kills Your Sex Life and How to Keep it Alive.

They Focus on the Positive

Sex Habits of Super Happy CouplesHis dirty talk makes you want to laugh so hard you cry? Keep it to yourself, and let him know that the swirly tongue trick he used was working in full effect. “Happy couples share what they enjoy in a positive way, rather than focusing on what they dislike or being critical,” says Jane Greer, Ph.D., author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. Even something as simple as “I enjoyed when you did such-and-such” can make a sexual experience better, says Greer. It’s all about positive reinforcement (unless something actually hurts/feels uncomfortable, in which case, definitely speak up). Even if a certain technique of his isn’t working for you, redirect him by focusing on what would get you going rather than why his move is a total bedroom fail.

They Make Time for Sex

If the new-relationship days when you were going at it like rabbits are just a distant memory, your S.O. should still rank high on your to-do list. “People feel sex should come naturally. It’s true, it should, but we have a very busy culture where there’s a lot of distraction and chronic exhaustion,” says Ofman. If you have to schedule sex to keep the connection alive, so be it! Keep checking in with each other to determine how much sex you both need to stay satisfied, then do your best to make it happen.

They Set Aside Time to Fantasize

Sex Habits of Super Happy CouplesWhether they’re sharing all the dirty details with each other or keeping their steamy fantasies for their minds only, happy couples don’t shy away from letting their minds wander. “Fantasizing is a great way to prime the pump for your heart and passion to soar,” says Castellanos. “Don’t be afraid to push the envelope a little. There’s no judgment in the world of imagination.

They’re Psyched to Have Sex

If you’d rather zone out in front of the TV than have sex but you do it anyway, your guy can probably tell. That’s bad news bears for your satisfaction, both in the bedroom and out. “Nothing is deadlier than the perception that someone is only participating because they feel obligated,” says Ofman. Instead, people (especially women) in ecstatic relationships get themselves into a frame of mind that focuses on how much fun sex is for them. “Thinking about what’s pleasurable or erotic for you instead of just doing it for him makes you more likely to have a good sexual experience,” says Ofman.

6 Of The Best Sex Habits of Super Happy Couples
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It's something you do with your partner that most people don't do with anyone else, so it sets the relationship apart and makes it special,
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Well, my name is Jon the Owner of You Only Wetter a 37-year-old, Poly practicing, Dom with two great kids. I am a happy busy internet geek with a love of all things Google and I love spending time sitting on the sofa watching the latest Dr. Who, Mythbusters or a movie. I am a nudist mostly at home but do like to go down to the beach and bare all or go for a little walk around some hidden woodland really would like to do the whole nudist holiday :)

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