Everything you need to know about strap-ons
Strap-on & harness play should be part of your healthy sex life as with everything there is a few key things to know to get the most from your strap-on adventures.
First off, Yes! Everyone can use them.
Strap-ons are used by people of every gender identity and sexual orientation. Harness’s fit around the hips and thighs like a tight pair of underwear holding a dildo, which gives the wearer a hands-free penetration “device” yea you get your own cock. Strap-ons can be used for anal/vaginal or even oral penetration, as well as allowing you to have a second penis in a double penetration scene.
The Main Ways to Play with your strap-on.
There are 3 main types: a thong, a jockstrap, and the underwear type.
The Thong and jock-strap styles have straps around the waist and thighs and use a fitting to hold a dildo in place against the pubic bone whereas the underwear type looks like regular underwear with the fitting sewn into the front to hold your dildo. The great thing about thong and jockstrap styles is that they have adjustable straps. Underwear harnesses come in sizes and the weight of the dildo can change the way it fits, so the correct sizing is important with this type.
Start by picking your dildo, then the how you wear it.
The size of your dildo determines what type of strap that will work best as mentioned above. The rubber or metal rings, that help hold the dildo in place will be picked on the size and shape of your new cock & some of the straps can unsnap so the rings can be changed, but in others, the rings are permanently attached.
Let the Receiver pick the dildo
When picking out your dildo for strap-on sex the receiving partner should have the most say in the choice. We see the wearer going for a particular look, while the receiver might be more drawn to a shape that is more pleasurable. One solution, if there is a want for difference, would be to get several dildos in varying sizes, allowing for image-play for the wearer and penetrative comfort for the receiver. But always go with, the person being penetrated gets the final say in the toy choice.
Don’t be too serious your first time will be silly
As you get started, keep a sense of humor, wearing a harness for the first time can feel awkward, and getting the thrust depth right takes practice. Talk with your partner and be open to giggle your way through this new kinky learning. As you gain confidence, try out different speeds, depths, and timing of thrusts. Have fun practicing and experimenting together.
